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I have a crush on you

On Saturday I sent my friend Niki a photo of Nic Cage. Why? Because I know she has a crush on him. She first loved him in Valley Girl and she claims love like that only happens in the ’80s. He remains on her list because of – and I quote – “his unabashed overacting that is so overwhelmingly earnest to me.” I don’t really get the Nic Cage thing. He is not for me, except in Valley Girl. But I don’t have to get it. It’s her thing. I know her well enough that I can celebrate this about her and post a cheesy photo of him.

That got me thinking about crushes. So I asked people on Facebook who their crushes were and why. I loved the responses. What I also loved is how unapologetic everyone was with their crushes. There was no excuses, no ridicule, no shyness, no take backs. Just straight up: this is who, this is why and cries of “no, you can’t have him!” (Adam Levine almost started a war!) How cool would it be if we were as comfortable with all aspects of our lives as we are with naming our crushes out loud?

Also, I have spring fever. I am like a caged animal. So what better time to celebrate who we crush on. The dirty crushes, the long time crushes, the fleeting crushes and the crushes that you are almost embarrassed to mention yet must mention anyway. It matters not why we love them. We just do. Here are mine. Some are old, some are new, some will be with me forever.

Let’s celebrate! Here is my top ten:

han soloHan Solo
Our affair started in 1977 with the original Star Wars and is still going strong. He will forever be 1977 Han to me. Yes. I love him. No, he cannot also be yours. He is mine.



david duchovnyDavid Duchovny
As Hank Moody he is to die for. Wickedly smart comebacks, an unsuccessful success, and he loves his family. As much as I want to hate him I am always rooting for him.



lana-del-reyLana Del Ray
Such a beautiful singer. Mad style, seems crazy, amazing presence. I want to be her for a bit. I channel her daily.




Paul newmanPaul Newman
Blue eyes, philanthropist, family man. Then. Now. Forever.




jon_hammJon Hamm
Yes. And yes. And yes. It’s complicated because my father could have been Don Draper.
I don’t really want to talk about it.



mark walhbergMark Wahlberg
The rollercoaster scene in the movie Fear.
 Ah, yeh! Scruffy in the Perfect Storm. Sigh. And the Calvin Klein ads. #hummanahummana



SONS OF ANARCHY: Ryan Hurst. CR: James Minchin III / FXRyan Hurst
Opie in Sons Of Anarchy. Tall, bearded, tattooed, and so very sad. I want to run away with him on the back of his bike and never come back. I am sure I will make him happy.



drew_barrymore_Drew Barrymore
She is a wild one. I want to be her best friend and hang out swapping stories, drinking wine and getting crazy. I have always had a thing for her. I am in love with how she shows up in the world. Unapologetic. Interested. Funny.



jon_stewartJon Stewart
Integrity. Humour. Honesty.  What is not to love in this man?




samelliotSam Elliot
Handsome and rugged. I want that voice to whisper sweet nothings to me. Riding a Harley or riding a horse. A manly man. (And seriously…the t-shirt. So ’70s!)



burt_reynoldsAnd finally:
Burt Reynolds
For my mom – and Niki. For this centerfold spread of him on the bearskin rug. The moustache. The chest. Smokey and the Bandit styles. He IS the man.



This is my celebration of the men and women I love. That guy’s exact words when I wanted to include him were: “These are fictional, I am real.” So there you go. Hmph.
This song pretty much sums it up. If you also have spring fever give it a listen:

Now you know who MY crushes are, and why. I have to say narrowing it to ONLY ten was pretty fucking tough. I am a crush monster. I also want to hear about yours. Shout it from the rooftops or let me know in the comments. Go wild. It’s spring and you are a wild one.

Because I have a crush on you,


  1. Okay Renee … Now we are into confessions and considering I just did a tour of 3 dozens cathedrals in 10 countries in past four months… Each with it’s own very unique wooden or cement or marble confessional booths, I have a confession. I have had a “crush” on you since we met in Puerto Vallerta in the fall of 2014 at the AWEsomeness Festival. There I have said it. So I must tell you that as I continue reading your amazing blogs and posts that this “crush” is NOT going away. Keep your head high and continue shaping your insightful words around the support of the wild ones. YOU are GOLD woman… Rich deep shining “GOLD” – carry on wise one. – I love you. Tommy

  2. I love this. And I was almost 21 when I saw Star Wars in 1977 and I fell in love with Han Solo and I’m only one month older than Carrie Fisher was…

    Liam Neeson. As that fierce Rob Roy. And just because he’s Liam Neeson. At the top of my crush list.

    Kirk Douglas in his younger days. Paul Newman and those eyes and Tom Selleck. (I have a friend whose physical features are a blend of Paul and Tom. Yes, I had a crush on him for a while but he’s not available.) I giggled when I saw the Burt poster because I had it too. Darlin’ I’m a wild child of the 60s and 70s…

    For some reason that I cannot articulate, Keanu Reeves in The Matrix.

    This list needs more pondering. I’m tired and I know there are more but they are dancing at the far edges of my mind.

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